Children’s Whole Life Insurance is a commonly purchased life insurance product. Parents and grandparents can buy these policies on their minor children and grandchildren.
There are many reasons why parents and grandparents may choose to buy a child’s whole life insurance policy. Some benefits of buying children’s whole life insurance include:
- Locking in a low premium
- Guaranteeing life insurance coverage for the child no matter what health issues may occur
- Option to purchase more coverage later in the child’s life
- Accumulating cash value that grows with the child
These policies typically don’t have large face amounts. They often range from $5,000 to $50,000 in coverage, but if the worst should happen and a child dies far too young, the death benefit can help the parent pay for a funeral and other expenses.
In most cases, thankfully, children grow into healthy adults and proceed to live long lives. But this doesn’t mean the policy now has no purpose. Children’s whole life insurance is a permanent product which means it will provide coverage until the insured dies, no matter when that is, as long as the premiums keep getting paid.
We get the following question from many of these insured children who have now grown up:
Is the policy my parent bought on me when I was young now mine?
The simple answer is no. Although there are a few companies that offer products that do become the child’s asset at age 21, most policies bought on children do not automatically transfer ownership.
These policies are owned by the parent/grandparent. Policyowners have control over the policy. Although the child may be the person who is insured, the child does not have legal rights to the policy, even as adults.
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Parent Owners Can Transfer Ownership (if they want to)
Policyowners can transfer ownership to the adult child if they choose to do so. In fact, this is a popular decision. When the adult child grows up and has a family of their own, this small whole life insurance policy purchased on them when they were young has accumulated cash value. These funds can be accessed through policy loans and withdrawal or surrenders.
But parent/grandparent policyowners are under no obligation to transfer ownership, even if the adult child requests it. As owners, they have unrestricted access to the cash value and can use it however they wish. The parent or grandparent sometimes will simply opt to surrender (terminate) the policy and receive the surrender value in cash.
If your parent or grandparent owns a policy on you and you prefer to be the owner, you can offer to buy it from them. Offer what the policy is worth in exchange for transferring ownership. But, again, they aren’t required to accept the offer.
Parent Owners Can Change Beneficiaries (if they want to)
In lieu of transferring ownership, some parent/grandparent owners may also choose to just change the beneficiary. But we don’t recommend this course of action. Here’s why.
The typical scenario: If a parent/grandparent buys a life insurance policy on their minor child, they are likely the beneficiary as well. When this child grows up and has a family of their own, some parent owners may choose to change the beneficiary to the child’s spouse as a gesture of love. With this setup, they still own and have control over the policy. They still pay the premiums. If they want to access the cash value account, they can, but the death benefit goes to the child’s spouse when the child dies.
The problem with this scenario: when a life insurance policy has three different people named as owner, insured, and beneficiary, this creates a tax issue. When the insured dies, the owner is essentially gifting the death benefit proceeds to the beneficiary. In normal circumstances, a death benefit is paid tax-free, but not when it’s a gift in the eyes of the government.
If a parent wants the child’s family to receive the death benefit, it’s best to just transfer ownership to avoid the death benefit becoming taxable.
In conclusion, children whole life insurance policies are purchased out of love and protection. There is no reason to feel uneasy, but open a dialogue with your parent/grandparent if you’re concerned about this policy on you.
If discussing with them isn’t an option and you’re truly troubled that someone else has a policy on you that you don’t have control over, contact your local insurance commissioner for assistance. You can find contact information for the commissioner’s office in the state you live in here: NAIC.org.
About the writer

Natasha Cornelius, CLU
Senior Editor and Life Insurance Expert
Natasha Cornelius, CLU, is a writer, editor, and life insurance researcher for Quotacy.com where her goal is to make life insurance more transparent and easier to understand. She has been in the life insurance industry since 2010 and has been writing about life insurance since 2014. Natasha earned her Chartered Life Underwriter designation in 2022. She is also co-host of Quotacy’s YouTube series. Connect with her on LinkedIn.
My father in law took out a whole life insurance policy on my husband and transferred it to him a year ago. We were able to get the cash payout. My question is will we have to pay taxes on it? I’ve asked this in different forums but have yet to get a clear response. Some say yes. Some say no. Some say yes but only a small amount. So hoping you may could clarify this.
When you surrender a policy for it’s cash value, you will owe income taxes on any gain above what your basis is in the policy (in this case it’s your father in law’s basis at the time of transfer).
The basis is the total amount of premiums paid (minus any previous withdrawals if your father in law took out withdrawals) into the policy at the time of the surrender. So, if your cash payout (the surrender value) is greater than the total amount of premiums your father in law had paid, then you will owe taxes on the difference.
I hope this helps! Taxes and life insurance can be complicated. I recommend you call the insurance company that wrote the policy if you have any specific questions.
Where do I ask my question?
Jamke, you can ask your question here in the comments section. Or if you want a detailed response regarding buying a life insurance policy, you can contact Quotacy directly at (844) 786-8229.
My father took a whole life policy out on me when I was 2 years old. I am not even sure if the agency is exists. Is there a way to find old companies that aren’t populating in google?
My dad purchased a policy through state farm for the last four children in my family. .each being 10000$ .but my policy being one that will have cash value.and payback of premiums. Before my father passed away he gave me my folder with my policy info and said this is yours now u can keep paying or cash out the premiums if u need it .I am a disabled adult with two almost grown children. Since he’s passed my family has his his will and sold off all property of mine and all my father’s assets besides the house that is paid up to be split between the nine of us .well seven now, my two siblings died since my dad passed.and my closest youngest brother has illegally sold and fraudulently transfered titles on my dad’s cars to vs boats antiques, CDs bank accts cash atvs and now he has cashed my deceased brothers SSI checks and has some stuff still in my dad and brother’s name.hes pawned most of my belongings since the house was miy home till my dad passed then I moved out to take care of my family but my dad wanted all these things to stay in family as family home.if sold to be split equally. Now my brother and daughter have been living i my house and ruining anything left of my parents. The only thing I have left is that policy which I need.my brother put his name on policy as owner somehow.state farm said it may be cuz his name was the same as my dad’s with a Jr at the end..my daughter is stealing my policy bills and letters and said she thinks it should go to her. My dad left her plenty including a stock acct and they both live free in that house.my policy is paid up and has cash value and dividends. And I’m able to cash out on thirty yrs of premiums .they are greedy and I don’t know what to do.i have copy of will. And my daughter has another copy but she has hidden it too so estate couldn’t be split . He doesn’t let any of us in the house and he smoking drugs in there.hes sold everything and my dad was my best friend he didn’t want this.whag do I do.i want to show someone this will and prove he’s been committing fraud and that he stole and pawned to hear things before probate could see fit to distribute.when my brother died try took all his stuff sold it took his policy death brnifit and didn’t even have a funeral or an urn or services .just cremated him put him in a box.please help me get justice and how can state farm be so lax about who they give info otlr ownership of over the computer with no I’d or proof of anything.they get loan on my acct and the owner was my dad till he gave me my policy then they faxed request to change when they heard it worth money and I didn’t realize they were running around stealing from me. My daughter is greedy and spoiled and they both still getting money from my dead family’s bank accts forging names etc.
Angie, there is a lot going on here. I’m sorry for all the stress you’re currently under. I think the best thing would be to get in touch with an attorney who can help you gather documentation and put together a game plan.
I purchased a whole life policy on my child from Prudetial. I just received a call stating that the policy became the child’s policy at 21. I did not change the policy to my son and continue to pay for the policy. My son is now 38. The agent states that he can’t talk to me about the policy unless my son gives him permission. Is
Good morning I called my child’s ins.. co. To check beneficiary statis and wa told my daughter was now the owner my daughter is forty-one now she no longer speaks to me, I did not transfer this too her, I have sense stop paying policy now so I have been continuing to pay since she turned 21 until now she is 41 is there anything I can do
Good morning, Pat. Some children’s life insurance policies automatically transfer ownership to the child when they turn 21. This may have been the case with the policy you purchased. I recommend you calling the insurance company back and asking for specifics regarding that specific policy.
Ok so my mom …without my concent started paying my payments when I went to jail and then took my sister of as beneficiary and put herself on and I don’t even speak to her come to find out she only started taking over payments because she wanted to take out bigger loans and im always getting all saying that I am late on payment and I know the insurance is being paid so i didn’t understand why until I called and found out she had a big loan out on it …anyways my question is since I am the initial one who started the policy am I not the legal owner and if so how can I get these loans situated since I never got them and how can I block her from being able to do this again at a later date
Hi Marty, I need some clarification. Did you transfer ownership of the policy over to your mom prior to going to jail? Only the owner of the policy can take out loans against it and change beneficiaries. So, your mom must be the owner if she’s been taking out the loans. If you’re the rightful owner, call the insurance company and explain to them the situation. They can advise you.
hi my mom whom lives in alabama i live in texas for the past 10 years has had a prudential whole life policy on me now since i was probably 4 or 5 maybe since i was born not sure but anyways i was living in ohio bout to give birth to my last child who is now going to be 21 in june and my mother calls me and says i need to meet with her/mine insurance guy and sign some papers but not to worry that if i just sign this paper when i meet with him i wouldnt have to worry about having to meet with him again because i was about to give birth and all….well years later im going thru financial problems and need some money fast to get light bill and rent paid before the lights go out and i get kicked out lol geeze for real tho well my older sister sherry lynn borrows agains hers all the time and stuff so she never signed that paper i did but neither my mom or the insurance guy explained to me or told me that i could borrow against my policy at the time or anything like that just fyi my mom and i have never really ever gotten along well or seen eye to eye on anything she calls me the out spoken black sheep of the family becuz i call a spade a spade and dont pussy foot around the truth so we bump heads quite a bit…..ive told her my financial situation and of course to her its well u got urself in the mess get urself out…my other 3 siblings for some odd reason never have a hard time borrowing money or getting loans from my mom but ive never asked her for anything cuz i didnt want to get my feelings hurt….so finally im desperate have nowhere else to turn and break down crying on the phone practically begging her for help and she has no sympothy empothy nothing she actually changed the subject to about something she was going through at the time so i just put my head down and sucked it up but while i was on phone with her and begging i asked her to let me borrow off my policy and there was never a second she even thought about letting me borrow from it,,,IT WAS A NO B4 I EVEN FINISHED THE SENTENCE OR QUESTION TO HER….ughhhhh so my question to u is she had to send me a copy of the last 2 years of payment on my life insurance policy becuz im trying to get my id and my birth cert. and ss card was stolen outta my ex’s safe and my id has been expired since 2014 from alabama well texas wants my id to continue recieving unemployment which they have paused till i get well she wasnt going to send my info on my policy thank god my daughter who still lives next to her in alabama was around and basically made her do it by using guilt or she wouldnt have even thought about it cuz i ordered a b.c. but still need another form of id to go with it and that was something i knew my mom had and i needed the info so now back to my question i dont want to upset her because we may not get along well much of the time shes been dang good to my kids and grandkids who she keep at age 69 all the time for my only daughter who has 4 kids so she can still go out and hang with friends ext…but im tired of her not being fare to me if u will and treating me a little bit like my siblings she gives and gives to them but i have to be either dying practically or have a very powerful daughter who knows how to use guilt against my mom to get her to do what she wants her to near by before she my mom will even consider at all doing anything that will help me out…so its through prudential in alabama what if anything can i do i have the policy number all those things for the policy now and when my mom sent it she attached a note saying there better not be a breach on it and i dont even know what the heck she is saying or trying to imply there so any info u can give me will surely help me please and ty in advance….
Holly, please call Prudential directly at (800) 778-2255.
If something happened to me in my life ended because of my own being or a drug overdose with my kids still get my life insurance policy
Hi Jennifer, the answer to this question is not black and white. Insurance companies have a right to investigate death claims if a death occurs within the first two years after buying the policy. During the first two years, if death is the result of suicide, the beneficiaries will not be paid the full death benefit. If you die as a result of drug use and it’s discovered that you lied about drug use on your application, the insurance company can deny paying out death benefit claims due to what is called misrepresentation. If a drug overdose occurs and drug use was not at play when you applied for life insurance, then most insurance companies would still pay out the death benefit.
My father passed away a couple of months ago and I have since found in all his paperwork that he had a life insurance policy on me when I was little that I did not know about. Since he has passed away do I get anything from that policy?
Nicole, I’m sorry to hear about the recent loss of your father. Are you your father’s estate executor? I recommend calling the insurance company listed on the policy to find out if it’s still inforce (active). It may be paid-up and, therefore, could hold value. If the policy is no longer inforce, then it’s not worth anything to you.
If the policy is inforce: since your father was the owner of that policy, it’s now part of his estate. The probate process will determine who ownership transfers to. Since you’re the insured, it’s likely ownership would transfer to you. You can then choose to keep the coverage or surrender the policy for its cash value, if there is any.
Hi Natasha, I found you article very helpful but I do have a question. We just found out my in-laws have a policy on my husband. They are both deceased. My sister in law is the trustee of their estate and wants to transfer ownership to my husband. However, the parents took a loan against the policy and it was never paid. Do you know what happens to that? If he takes iownership and surrenders the policy, does the company just withhold the loan amount from the payout amount? Thank you.
Hi Tiffany, yes, if your husband becomes the new policyowner and chooses to surrender it, the insurance company will take what is owed from the surrender cash value before paying it out. If he does not surrender it, the interest will continue to accumulate interest unless he opts to pay it off.
Mistake Made in 1st Post It’s 14years since the last time I heard or seen my son not the 4yrs as it stated in previous post
Linda,
First of all, it is my dearest hope that you are able to connect with your son and have him be active in your life in the future. As for the policy you purchased on your son when he was a baby, you are the owner and therefore have all the rights to any cash value that has built up in the plan. If you need the money in the policy, then you can cash it out by contacting the insurance company and ask to surrender the policy (or take a loan against the policy if you need the money and can pay it back at a later time).
Hi my mother in law has an insurance policy on her 4 children she recently passed away due to COVID her children are not wanting to be on the policy anymore due to dis trust of the insured policy holder could each child opt out of the policy or get the policy in their own names so they can take over
Valinsia, if I understood correctly, your MIL owned life insurance policies on each of her four children. After her death, ownership was transferred to someone the children don’t trust. Unfortunately, because these children are not owners of the policies, they do not have control over them. If they fear for their safety, they can get in touch with the proper authorities. But, other than that, they don’t have the option to opt out or take over ownership.
I have a policy on my since a baby he is grown now and I have not heard or seen him in 4years don’t know where he Lives or if he still living he move from our home town 14yrs ago at 19yrs old and he 34yrs old now and I still have policy what can I do can I cash it in now or what
What if your parent has a life insurance policy on you and you don’t want them to ? Is there anything you can do ?
Angela, ask your parents if they would be willing to transfer ownership over to you. They aren’t required to, but some parents do this. You can even offer to pay your parents the value of the policy in exchange.
Am I the owner of a 65 year old policy my parents bought on me when I was born?
I just found it.
My mom has just died and my father died 36 years ago.
It has a cash value of $4800 and death benefit of $6800
I have 2 universal life policies on daughter since she was about 10..now 44..I noticed 1 of them changed her to owner instead of me..I still pay premiums ..when asked company they say it transfers after age 18…even though this jus happened about 5 yrs ago…the 2nd policy is still.listing me as owner..they don’t know why it hasn’t changed ownership..they both have about 2000 each cash value build up. Thank you
Some child life insurance policies are designed to automatically transfer ownership to the adult child at a certain age (often age 21). I recommend you call the policy service department of the insurance company that sold you the policies and ask for more details.
Hi my name is Kennette Jonnson. I am an owner of a life insurance through prudential. My mom is the beneficiary (who has passed away). I know she she purchased this policy as I was a child. The policy is active. They just contact me. What happens to that policy?
Hi Kennette – I’m sorry to hear you lost your mother. If you are the owner, nothing happens to the policy just because the beneficiary has passed away. It’s time to add a new beneficiary. Contact Prudential and they can help you update the policy.